#18 - An Oakville Businessman - Fifty Shades of ...

I messaged this nice looking gentleman with 2 Masters degrees on the internet dating site. His pictures and education caught my attention. I shared with him my love of art and learning. He told me that his background was British and his Masters degrees were in Education and Business Administration. He was my age but had never been married. He was seeking a committed relationship. Eventually he indicated to me that he wasn't sure if I could be a "sub". I asked him to clarify and he sent me a link to a website which I quickly read. It defined the parameters of a submissive - dominant lifestyle in a lengthy list of rules and regulations. The submissive was little more than a slave to her Master. He controlled her dress, behaviour, sexuality, and most other choices. She could not look up at him at eye level but had to bow her head down, could not take a bite of her meal without him first and had to allow him full use of her body for his sexual gratification. It went on to explain House and Dungeon protocol during play sessions. Everything I read was totally out of character for me. I believe in equality in relationships. I wondered what woman would accept his offer?? I wrote him back and explained that I could not possibly follow all of those rules (they would stiffle my creativity). I wondered why his profile did not even hint at this lifestyle. I never heard from him again but his profile followed mine for some time. Lesson # 18 - Internet dating profiles leave out a lot of pertinent information. Good education doesn't necessarily negate an alternative lifestyle. Life Lesson for the Gentleman - Be honest in your profile and I believe Lincoln's 13th Amendment was successfully passed in 1865, abolishing slavery, not to mention the "Womens' Rights Movement".