#13 - Engineer - Financial Adviser

This slightly older gentleman messaged me on the internet dating site. He said he liked my pictures and profile and wanted to meet me the next day. We exchanged cell numbers and he contacted me. He had an engineering degree and worked for a large corporation as a financial adviser. He had shared custody of two sons whom he saw on weekends, during the day. He stated that every Friday and Saturday evening he went clubbing because he had a circle of friends he hung out with and he loved dancing. He asked if I would meet him in Richmond Hill at 8 pm on a Saturday. He seemed pleasant enough, so I agreed. I arrived at the coffee shop wearing a black fitted dress, black leggings and knee-high grey leather boots. I sported a new hairstyle which consisted of dark undertones, blonde highlights and a layered cut with side swept bangs. Since I was a little early, the owner/manager approached me and asked me what I wanted. I replied that I was waiting for someone. He chatted with me while I waited. When the gentleman arrived, they exchanged pleasantries clearly knowing each other. We ordered lattes and began to converse. He remarked that I looked better in person and commented on my beautiful green eyes. He smiled and said that I had a nice figure. I thanked him. He told me about his work and his duties as a dad. I shared some of my experiences and told him about my kids. An hour and a half later he looked at his watch and said that he had to get going; some friends were waiting for him at the club. He explained that he had many lady friends but they were just dance partners. The owner of the coffee shop walked over and handed him the bill, asking him if he was taking me dancing; to which he replied, "No". "Why not?" he exclaimed! The owner then asked us to wait 20 minutes and we could all go. The gentleman agreed. We waited. I followed them in my vehicle. We drove to a popular night spot in Mississauga. When we entered, the gentleman paid my way in as well as the coatcheck fee. He bought us drinks and I sipped my wine as he introduced me to the venue. It was very upbeat and his friends were nice. There was one particular woman who appeared to care for him (her body language spoke volumes). As soon as we finished our drinks he headed toward the dance floor with her. After about a half hour, I asked the coffee shop owner if he cared to dance and we joined them out there. We danced for 3 hours. The gentleman never asked me to dance but focused on his other lady friends --- dancing the night away. At 1:30, I excused myself, found a bar stool and sat down. I couldn't dance another beat. The gentleman's friend joined me. At 2 am the gentleman came looking for us; we said our good-byes and headed home. On the way home and the next day I received several texts from him. I responded but knew that I would not date him again. He had spent no time with me. Lesson Learned - Some gentlemen on internet dating sites have no intention of finding their match; they are completely entrenched in their single lifestyle. Life Lesson for the Gentleman - Don't take a lady out on a date and spend your evening dancing with other ladies (friends or not), if you expect to see her again.