#20 - The Doctor

I saw his pic on the internet dating site and was really attracted to his purple sweater (love the colour). I messaged him and we chatted for some time. He told me that I was giving him too much detail and should hold back until I determined whether or not he was interested in me. He continued to say that my pics were terrible (I only had one pic of me and the rest consisted of my artwork.) He advised me to put up multiple photos, showing my interests and at least one full body shot. I followed his advice. He left his cell number and I texted him. I felt that he wasn't interested in me but received two subsequent texts from him after a month, reminding me about who he was and complimenting me on my new pics. A week later I invited him to join me at the Freida and Diego exhibit at the AGO. He said he was not available, having to work that weekend but invited me to join him that evening at Milestones in the Yorkdale Shopping Centre. He texted me several times while I was getting ready and even sent me a photo of himself dressed in a suit on the way to the dinner date. I complimented him stating that he was my kind of guy and told him that I would wear a beautiful dress. I wore a black, empire waist short dress, with heels and a purpleheart pendant, which I had bought at the One of a Kind Craft Show. When I arrived, he was seated at a table, sipping a glass of red wine. He had ordered one for me and I gratiously accepted. We chatted for a while. I asked him if he had ever come close to a committed relationship. He shared with me that he had lived with a girl for five years, the wedding had been planned and paid for; then she left. He had a forestry degree and was mountain climbing in British Columbia with 3 friends when they had a terrible accident, falling ... one of his friends died, the other became a paraplegic and he was the least injured, sustaining 21 bone fractures. His right ankle had to be reconstructed and at one point they contemplated amputation. He was in a wheel chair for 2 years, was told that he would never walk again and that's when his girlfriend left him. I told him that she couldn't have loved him if she walked out when he needed her most. I shared with him that I had broken my entire left side during different incidents. He said that in his case it had been his right side. Two months before I was to be married, I had a horrific car accident which resulted in my left hip being fractured and dislocated. I was hospitalized, in traction, for two months. Years later I had a horeseback riding accident which resulted in my left ankle being severely fractured, dislocated, with all of the ligaments torn, and my tibia broken. His comment was "you're my yang to my ying!" We both agreed that the human body is capable of great healing when you're young! He was well disciplined and polite, having served in the army for 2 years. He had worked in Europe for 10 years and had eventually completed medical school. He was now doing his residency in Buffalo. This man interested me --- he had led a fascinating life! I asked him if we would see each other again. He nodded. I waited ... Lesson #20 - There are some nice gentlemen out there. Lesson for the Gentleman - Don't let a nice girl go, especially when your lives have run parallel and she is probably your soulmate!