#9 - Construction Project Manager

This good-looking Italian man messaged me repeatedly on the site before I finally responded. He suggested that we meet at Milestones, near me, for drinks and appetizers on a Thursday evening. I accepted. I arrived in a dark, floral print dress, peach sandles, matching jewelry and a large smile. My auburn hair hung gracefully over my shoulders. He met me inside the restaurant, scanning me with his eyes. I said, "Well here we are, so let's have drinks!" He ordered a beer and Nacho platter; I ordered a glass of red wine. He began to tell me that he had 4 children, 2 were his and another 2 were his former wife's. I asked him to explain and what ensued was a sad tale of a man in love with a woman who could not be monogomous. He told me that his wife was the most beautiful woman he had ever met. He described her as petite, blonde and very pretty. They married, had 2 children and when his youngest was 6, she had an affair with the neighbour, got pregnant, left her family and proceeded to have another child with the neighbour. After 5 years, she tired of the neighbour and reconciled with her husband. They bought a new home and became a family again, this time with 4 kids. His life was uneventful for 9 years and then she took up with her eldest son's trainer, who was a decade younger than her. Once again she moved out, leaving the kids with her husband. He bought her out, paying her half of the value of their home (this was now the second time around for him). I asked him how long he had been on the dating site. He said that it had been a couple of years; he had met over 50 women but he knew instantly that they were not the one. I suggested that he was still in love with his wife and that he would probably take her back again, which he denied. We chatted for a couple of hours and then said our good-byes. Neither one of us ever intended to see each other again! Lesson #9 - Gentlemen on internet dating sites may not be ready for a relationship. Life Lesson for the Gentleman - Taking her back after she's cheated on you twice, what are you thinking?